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Sad story about a interracial relationship
Tweet Topic Started: Apr 2 2015, 04:58 AM (1,481 Views)
Zoom	Apr 2 2015, 04:58 AM Post #1
Posts: 3,426 Group: Member Member #12,146 Joined: March 16, 2015 Gender Male	Hi everybody... i want to ask people on this forum for their opinions on this sensitive matter. My sister was dating an indian man for 4 years. On the surface all looks good, he's all lovey dovey and treats my sister quite well. But the problems are his parents who doesn't agree to marrying any outsiders. They are very strict on only indians. Things gets even worst, i found from another friend that the indian guy was already engaged with an indian girl from india all the same time he was dating my sister. Anyway, i wanted to ask your opinion on do you think its fair for them to be wanted treated equally as a citizen , but for them to refuse to marry a white or black girl? If the cause is im not indian, isn't that racism?



+ QueenTD	Apr 3 2015, 02:20 PM Post #2
My Dear Melancholy, Posts: 4,480 Group: Elite Member Member #11,589 Joined: August 8, 2014 Gender Female Country United States	I don't think the Indian boy was racists. I'm not entirely sure but in India don't they have arrange marriages and more 1 wife? It's possible they wanted to keep that tradition despite his love for your sister. I know many Africans who don't allow their kids to date or marry American Black. Could be wanting to keep the blood pure?
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Darker	Apr 4 2015, 03:57 PM Post #3
The Lord of the Dark Posts: 15,358 Group: Member Member #11,968 Joined: January 7, 2015 Gender Male Country Spain	The problem comes from the fact that the indian dude already has a girlfriend. Does your sister know about this? Also, I did not understand the bit with interracial marriage, does the indian guy want to marry your sis?
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Buuberries	Apr 4 2015, 04:05 PM Post #4
No Posts: 7,150 Group: Members Member #8,753 Joined: December 30, 2012 Gender Not Specified Country None Favourite Anime The Passion of Christ What Browser do you use? Christianity Favourite Manga The Bible	the title's interracial relationship, not interracial marriage
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+ Pointer	Apr 4 2015, 04:15 PM Post #5
... Posts: 7,062 Group: Elite Member Member #8,812 Joined: January 5, 2013 Gender Male	Indian people are special especially if they still attached to the caste system, hence any outsider is in a lower caste automatically, I guess. So that might be the cause of the problem above.



+ Steve	Apr 4 2015, 04:54 PM Post #6
Greetings. I will be your waifu this season. Posts: 19,471 Group: Legend Member #5,710 Joined: February 7, 2011 Gender Male Country United Kingdom Favourite Anime Hunter x Hunter(2011) What Browser do you use? Mozilla Firefox Favourite Manga Berserk all day erry day	I'm not sure why you'd get in to a long term relationship with someone who wouldn't give up tradition for you really. Or why he would bother dating your sister when he was already engaged, maybe it was a forced marriage but if his parents rule his life what's the point? Give up tradition or give up the relationship, can't have both.
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Bluesummers	Apr 5 2015, 10:48 PM Post #7
Posts: 174 Group: Duplicate Member #7,500 Joined: April 2, 2012 Gender Male Country Canada Favourite Anime Inuyasha, Trigun, DBZ What Browser do you use? Chrome	hellobooboo Apr 2 2015, 04:58 AM Things gets even worst, i found from another friend that the indian guy was already engaged with an indian girl from india all the same time he was dating my sister. That alone is enough reason for her not to marry him. Why would he be engaged to some other girl in some other country?haha



Zoom	Apr 6 2015, 02:14 AM Post #8
Posts: 3,426 Group: Member Member #12,146 Joined: March 16, 2015 Gender Male	The arrange marriage was planned by his parents. The whole time my sister and him were dating, his parents arranged them to be married way before my sister and him started to date. i confronted him and he said its tradition indian culture. I asked him if he knew his parents had already set him up with another indian girl, why have sex and date my sister? I knocked him the out.



~~Doggo Champion 2k17~~	Apr 6 2015, 06:23 AM Post #9
Posts: 7,931 Group: GTFO Member #6,380 Joined: June 20, 2011 Country United States Favourite Anime here comes What Browser do you use? o shit waddup! Favourite Manga dat boi	If it's an arranged marriage, I fail to see how this is entirely his fault. He probably doesn't want to marry the woman he's engaged to but has no way of nullifying the engagement. Indian culture is very different from American culture.



+ Ginyu	Apr 6 2015, 09:11 AM Post #10
Leve Feyenoord 1! Posts: 4,490 Group: Elite Member Member #9,685 Joined: June 30, 2013 Gender Female Country Netherlands Favourite Anime NJPW What Browser do you use? Chrome Favourite Manga Reading is for nerds, yo!	It's kind of the family's own choice. It's immoral and stupid, sure, but if they want it that way, we can't stop them. It's up to the guy whether he wants a relationship he desires and be neglected by his immoral family or be accepted by his immoral family and be forced into a relationship he doesn't enjoy. It's a s***ty dilemma, one that nobody should have to make, but it's the truth.
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olliebalollie	Apr 6 2015, 11:14 PM Post #11
Posts: 708 Group: Member Member #11,278 Joined: April 30, 2014 Gender Male Country Australia Favourite Anime Dragon Ball Kai What Browser do you use? Firefox & Google Chrome Favourite Manga Dragon Ball	hellobooboo Apr 2 2015, 04:58 AM Hi everybody... i want to ask people on this forum for their opinions on this sensitive matter. My sister was dating an indian man for 4 years. On the surface all looks good, he's all lovey dovey and treats my sister quite well. But the problems are his parents who doesn't agree to marrying any outsiders. They are very strict on only indians. Things gets even worst, i found from another friend that the indian guy was already engaged with an indian girl from india all the same time he was dating my sister. Anyway, i wanted to ask your opinion on do you think its fair for them to be wanted treated equally as a citizen , but for them to refuse to marry a white or black girl? If the cause is im not indian, isn't that racism? First off, I just want to say sorry, and my condolences to your sister for her time of pain. I'm going to be blunt because I don't have much internet time. Is it racists that his parents wanted to marry an Indian girl/woman? No. I'm sorry, the truth is all immigrants (Italians, Greeks, Chinese, Indians, etc..) coming from another country have the same problem. When they come to a new country, usually, the first thing they do is stick together with their race or countrymen. I know it sounds stupid, especially living in the 21st century, but this is defense mechanism most of us do. It's similar to males and females, on the train they usually try to seat next to their same gender. Did your sister's boyfriend do something wrong? Hell yeah! From what you described, he knew he was engaged to another Indian girl. He is either; 1. He loves your sister, but his a coward that couldn't stand up to his parents or tell your sister the truth. or 2. He played your sister, knew full well his parents setup him up and try the forbidden fruit (in this case your sister). I don't have a sister, but I have a little brother that's just started high school and his experiencing other races. So I have some sort of experience in this matter.



+ Ginyu	Apr 7 2015, 05:38 AM Post #12
Leve Feyenoord 1! Posts: 4,490 Group: Elite Member Member #9,685 Joined: June 30, 2013 Gender Female Country Netherlands Favourite Anime NJPW What Browser do you use? Chrome Favourite Manga Reading is for nerds, yo!	olliebalollie Apr 6 2015, 11:14 PM hellobooboo Apr 2 2015, 04:58 AM Hi everybody... i want to ask people on this forum for their opinions on this sensitive matter. My sister was dating an indian man for 4 years. On the surface all looks good, he's all lovey dovey and treats my sister quite well. But the problems are his parents who doesn't agree to marrying any outsiders. They are very strict on only indians. Things gets even worst, i found from another friend that the indian guy was already engaged with an indian girl from india all the same time he was dating my sister. Anyway, i wanted to ask your opinion on do you think its fair for them to be wanted treated equally as a citizen , but for them to refuse to marry a white or black girl? If the cause is im not indian, isn't that racism? First off, I just want to say sorry, and my condolences to your sister for her time of pain. I'm going to be blunt because I don't have much internet time. Is it racists that his parents wanted to marry an Indian girl/woman? No. I'm sorry, the truth is all immigrants (Italians, Greeks, Chinese, Indians, etc..) coming from another country have the same problem. When they come to a new country, usually, the first thing they do is stick together with their race or countrymen. I know it sounds stupid, especially living in the 21st century, but this is defense mechanism most of us do. It's similar to males and females, on the train they usually try to seat next to their same gender. I do not agree with this, an Indian family kind of steering their kids towards an Indian partner is not racist. An Indian person saying he only wants to date Indians is also not racist, It's sexual preference and you can't help it. However, a family actively forbidding you from dating any other race than Indian is racist and bigoted. On this matter they have no right to tell their kids what to do. What his family is doing is pretty much the same as forcing a homosexual man to marry a woman. Maybe the guy doesn't like Indian women, that doesn't matter, maybe he can only get attracted to white or black girls, it happens. You can sugarcoat it with your defense story all you want, but in the end It's shortsighted and racist.
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WarriorRace	Apr 7 2015, 06:31 AM Post #13
Posts: 206 Group: Member Member #10,910 Joined: February 20, 2014 Gender Male Country Canada Favourite Anime Dragon Ball Z What Browser do you use? Safari Favourite Manga Dragon Ball	I don’t agree with the racist part. It doesn’t really have to do with them thinking that Indians are better than other races. It’s more just something that’s become ingrained into the society and culture. I don’t agree with it, I think everyone should be able to choose who to marry, and interracial Indian marriage does happen more often now, but it’s still very different than the culture in western civilization. Even when people emigrate from India, they usually still leave large parts of their family behind, and this type of thinking is more prevalent in India, so going against the grain is a hard thing to do. And a lot of times a wedding is arranged without the two people even meeting face to face. It’s hard to explain exactly what it’s like if you haven’t grown up in that culture. I come from an Indian background by the way, I was born in Canada, but my parents are both from India.



Zoom	Apr 7 2015, 08:18 AM Post #14
Posts: 3,426 Group: Member Member #12,146 Joined: March 16, 2015 Gender Male	GinyuTokusentai Apr 6 2015, 09:11 AM It's kind of the family's own choice. It's immoral and stupid, sure, but if they want it that way, we can't stop them. It's up to the guy whether he wants a relationship he desires and be neglected by his immoral family or be accepted by his immoral family and be forced into a relationship he doesn't enjoy. It's a s*ty dilemma, one that nobody should have to make, but it's the truth. GinyuTokusentai Apr 7 2015, 05:38 AM olliebalollie Apr 6 2015, 11:14 PM hellobooboo Apr 2 2015, 04:58 AM Hi everybody... i want to ask people on this forum for their opinions on this sensitive matter. My sister was dating an indian man for 4 years. On the surface all looks good, he's all lovey dovey and treats my sister quite well. But the problems are his parents who doesn't agree to marrying any outsiders. They are very strict on only indians. Things gets even worst, i found from another friend that the indian guy was already engaged with an indian girl from india all the same time he was dating my sister. Anyway, i wanted to ask your opinion on do you think its fair for them to be wanted treated equally as a citizen , but for them to refuse to marry a white or black girl? If the cause is im not indian, isn't that racism? First off, I just want to say sorry, and my condolences to your sister for her time of pain. I'm going to be blunt because I don't have much internet time. Is it racists that his parents wanted to marry an Indian girl/woman?** No. I'm sorry, the truth is all immigrants (Italians, Greeks, Chinese, Indians, etc..) coming from another country have the same problem. When they come to a new country, usually, the first thing they do is stick together with their race or countrymen. I know it sounds stupid, especially living in the 21st century, but this is defense mechanism most of us do. It's similar to males and females, on the train they usually try to seat next to their same gender. I do not agree with this, an Indian family kind of steering their kids towards an Indian partner is not racist. An Indian person saying he only wants to date Indians is also not racist, It's sexual preference and you can't help it. However, a family actively forbidding you from dating any other race than Indian is racist and bigoted. On this matter they have no right to tell their kids what to do. What his family is doing is pretty much the same as forcing a homosexual man to marry a woman. Maybe the guy doesn't like Indian women, that doesn't matter, maybe he can only get attracted to white or black girls, it happens. You can sugarcoat it with your defense story all you want, but in the end It's shortsighted and racist. WarriorRace Apr 7 2015, 06:31 AM I don’t agree with the racist part. It doesn’t really have to do with them thinking that Indians are better than other races. It’s more just something that’s become ingrained into the society and culture. I don’t agree with it, I think everyone should be able to choose who to marry, and interracial Indian marriage does happen more often now, but it’s still very different than the culture in western civilization. Even when people emigrate from India, they usually still leave large parts of their family behind, and this type of thinking is more prevalent in India, so going against the grain is a hard thing to do. And a lot of times a wedding is arranged without the two people even meeting face to face. It’s hard to explain exactly what it’s like if you haven’t grown up in that culture. I come from an Indian background by the way, I was born in Canada, but my parents are both from India. Did i tell you that the indian guy and his family wanted to be treated equally and enjoy the freedom? My sister told me that before they were dating, they met at uni. The indian guy asked another white girl out but she rejected him because she was racist and didn't like indians, so he complained and make a speech about he's a citizen and he has every right to be treated equally. My sister saw something in him because he showed character. His mother said in this free country, we should be allowed to date anyone we choose. I sort of agree with Ollie, that guy is a coward or a bad person. he was engaged with another girl before he was dating my sister. him and his family wanted to be treated equally and complain about this a free country and her son should be allowed to date anyone. while all this time they knew he was engaged with a indian girl.



WarriorRace	Apr 7 2015, 06:20 PM Post #15
Posts: 206 Group: Member Member #10,910 Joined: February 20, 2014 Gender Male Country Canada Favourite Anime Dragon Ball Z What Browser do you use? Safari Favourite Manga Dragon Ball	hellobooboo Apr 7 2015, 08:18 AM Did i tell you that the indian guy and his family wanted to be treated equally and enjoy the freedom? My sister told me that before they were dating, they met at uni. The indian guy asked another white girl out but she rejected him because she was racist and didn't like indians, so he complained and make a speech about he's a citizen and he has every right to be treated equally. My sister saw something in him because he showed character. His mother said in this free country, we should be allowed to date anyone we choose. I sort of agree with Ollie, that guy is a coward or a bad person. he was engaged with another girl before he was dating my sister. him and his family wanted to be treated equally and complain about this a free country and her son should be allowed to date anyone. while all this time they knew he was engaged with a indian girl. And I agree with you that it's wrong. Even if it is an arranged marriage, he shouldn't be dating another woman. But I don't agree that it's racism. And I'm not sure why you're bringing up freedom and being treated equally. Everyone should be treated equally.



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